I like how Lewis made a distinction between wanting the woman and wanting the pleasures of that woman. Now days many men pursue a women for the pleasure that she can provide rather than pursuing the women themselves. They seek the Venus first rather than Eros.
Eros is falling in love. Eros focuses on your love for the other while Venus focused on the lust of oneself. Venus is more selfish because it is the carnal side while Eros is the romantic side.
Lewis states, and completely agree, that Eros should come first and then Venus. Love and marriage should come before sex. In our day this has been reversed. The world encourages sex before marriage or even love. If you do not believe me, just watch some of the popular movies today. People meet someone, and then have sex on the same day. The world places sex in its own separate category. According to the world it is just a normal process in a teenagers life.
Lewis also speak of the respect a wife should show to her husband, but the thing that we cannot forget is that the husband must love their wife. A husband should respect his wife and listen to her advice, because she is wiser in many ways.
Adultery is a powerful weapon of the devil. He wields Venus like a sword. I have witnessed many people, even friends, fall to that sword and have sex before they are married. I have heard God’s ministers’ letters of repentance for having been unfaithful to their wives, and commit adultery. This temptation affects everyone from the lowest to highest Christian. We must be wary of this sword, and lean on the Lord, for we cannot stand alone.